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Instantaneous
Transformation® is the name of our radical new technology
that allows people’s lives to shift, in an instant. With this
technology, previously unseen mechanical behaviors that
dominate people’s lives can be identified, cleared up, and
resolved by themselves, just through noticing the behavior.
Mechanical behaviors
Mechanical behaviors are old ways of doing things that once
worked, or appeared to have worked, in situations that were
stressful or in situations that were actually or perceived as
potentially endangering your survival. It works something like
this: As a child, your parents told you that you could not
have the cherry candy that you so desperately wanted while
waiting in line at the supermarket. To your immature mind,
this was totally unfair. In fact, this situation seemed like
the end of the world to you. So you pouted, cried, and had a
temper tantrum. You bothered your parents so much that they
recanted and bought you the candy. Now, as an adult, if the
person with whom you are in a relationship says no to
something you want, it is entirely possible that your response
will be very similar to the response you had in that
supermarket all those years ago.
How does noticing mechanical behaviors dissolve them? Anything
that you allow to be exactly the way it is or that you
observe, nonjudgmentally, will complete itself in that moment
and disappear. In other words, the nonjudgmental observation
of any behavior will allow that behavior to disappear and you
no longer have to be run mechanically, habitually by the
childish version of you.
This is such a simple concept that it is very difficult to
understand. The basic principle is that you can be the way you
are in any given moment only in that moment. So if you happen
to be sitting right now, then in this moment you cannot
possibly be standing too.
Most people have the misguided idea that things could be
different than they are in their life in any given moment.
People think, “I am sitting but I could be standing right
now.” But, in truth, when you are sitting you can only be
sitting. You can think it could be different but it can only
be the way it is at that moment. There is a law in physics
that states: No two things can occupy the same space at the
same time. In truth, you can only be doing what you are doing
and your life can only show up exactly as it is in any given
moment.
Again, anything that you allow to be exactly the way it is or
that you observe, nonjudgmentally, will complete itself in
that moment and disappear.
Do you need to work on bad habits to change them?
Most people try to change or fix their bad habits. People
are not just being the way they are, but instead they are
resisting the way that they are and trying to achieve an idea
of how they think they should be. The first principle of
Instantaneous Transformation® is that anything that you resist
persists and grows stronger. So if you are in disagreement
with any aspect of your life, those things that you are in
resistance to or disagree with persist and grow stronger.
Working on your bad habits to change or fix them or working on
yourself to be better is a form of resisting what is. And if
the first principle of transformation is true, then the more
you try to change or fix these habits, the more entrenched
they become.
Dissolving unwanted behaviors through self-observation
without self-reproach
To dissolve unwanted behaviors, you need to interact with
your own life as though you are an anthropologist studying a
tribe or culture. What an anthropologist does is to suspend
judgment and look at the culture not as right or wrong or good
or bad. They simply observe how the culture operates and
functions.
Within our own lives, most of us do not simply observe how we
function. Rather, we judge ourselves, comparing how we are to
how we think we ought to be, and we base our judgments
according to cultural standards (or the resistance to those
standards).
We are all addicted to fixing what we perceive to be our
weaknesses and faults rather than observing ourselves
neutrally. Transformation is not about fixing yourself to be a
better you. It is about being the way you are.
If you simply see how you are without judging, manipulating,
or trying to fix what is seen, this will facilitate the
completion of these unwanted behaviors. How? Well, neutrally
observing something doesn’t add energy to it -- for or against
-- and everything in this universe needs energy to survive. If
you don’t energize your habits, they will naturally dwindle
and shrivel up all on their own.
Where we got the idea of how we should be
Most of our ideas about how we ought to be or what a
better version of ourselves would look like come from our
childhood. When we were children, we decided what it was to be
a man or woman from the people around us. Not only did we
learn from our families and parents but also from children who
were older than us. At the very best, our ideas of who and how
we should be and what is right and wrong with us were
formulated by earlier versions of ourselves that were less
expansive than who we are today.
Since our minds are mechanical and automatically have thoughts
that follow other thoughts and so on, any conversation you
have about yourself and how you should be better or different
than your current self is coming from your past. There is an
opportunity now to look and see what is really true for you,
in this moment, not what is based in what you have been taught
and in your resistance to what you have been taught. It is
possible to look and see what it is that you want in your
life.
Discovering what you truly want
What is needed is an active engagement with what is going on
in your life right now. For most of us, however, there is
inertia, almost as if certain aspects of our lives are covered
in molasses. There are years of disappointment that make it
appear that it is not worth it to try, that it is not worth it
to go for it. What it takes to get through the inertia is to
get engaged with totality. If you are going at 100 percent, if
you are engaged in your life totally, your truth becomes
apparent, but not as an intellectual exercise. It is more as
an “of course.”
A lot of the resistance we experience in initiating anything
new is based on an idea of our own inadequacies put together
by an earlier version of ourselves, a much earlier version.
Again, since the mind is a recording machine of previous
conversations regarding events of our lives, it holds onto old
concepts as if they are still fresh and new. When we were very
young, our motor skills and coordination were nowhere near
what they are as adults, yet a lot of our beliefs and
conversations about what we are capable of and what we can or
cannot do come from decisions that were formed long before
puberty. Ideas that we have of our own desirability,
attractiveness, and worth were put in place long before the
current version of us came to be.
This being the case, apparently there is nothing you can do
except continue to have the same conversations over and over
again. But there is something called transformation.
Transformation is discovering how to access and live in the
moment. If you get into this current moment and notice old
mechanical behaviors as they show up, simply noticing the
behavior and noticing your own considerations about who you
are and what you are capable of will dissolve them and will
allow you the freedom to discover and be yourself.
Enthusiasm = Life
What you need to generate the energy to pull yourself into
your life and into the moment is enthusiasm. Many of us don’t
have that enthusiasm. We are swayed by our thoughts that
repeat our inadequacies so that we don’t even bother trying.
It is said that the longest journeys start with a single step.
You have got to begin. But how does one become enthusiastic?
Well, most people are looking for something that is worthy of
pouring their heart, soul, and passion into. Fear not. You
don’t have to look far. Glance around. Where are you in this
moment? It doesn’t matter. You can start to generate the
enthusiasm you naturally have for living right now, in this
moment. In fact, “now” is the only time there is. You don’t
have to wait for the circumstance to line up to a more
favorable position. You have the perfect circumstances for
transformation right now.
Look around your house, your apartment, wherever you are.
There are things that you have avoided completing. See what
they are and do them. Too tall an order? Okay, start with one
thing, any one thing. Completion of projects, in fact
completion of any kind, returns energy to you. Wash the
dishes, make your bed, make that call, run that errand. Start.
Starting anything gives you power. Notice when your thoughts
say “I can’t do it, I am not good enough, I will never be able
to get this done” and do it anyway. That is the beginning of
reclaiming your life. Feel your energy rush back into you.
Feel yourself come alive. It doesn’t have to be a monumental
project. Start with a burned-out light bulb or dusty area you
have been skirting around for weeks.
Life is an exciting adventure. If it doesn’t appear that way
to you, then there is something that you are occupied with
other than your life -- probably your thoughts about your
life. See if you can notice that your thoughts are just
thoughts and not reality.
The two of us are firm believers in the “fake it until you
make it” school of life. If you can’t find enthusiasm for your
circumstances in your life right now, fake it! Faking it will
lend you the ability to go with totality and before you know
it, you won’t be faking it anymore.
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Ariel & Shya Kane, Inc. / ASK Productions Inc. All Rights
Reserved
For more information:
Ariel and Shya Kane’s Website
Books and Audio Tapes by Ariel and Shya Kane
Working on Yourself Doesn’t Work: A Book
About Instantaneous Transformation
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