The Spiritual ChicksSM Speak Out:
If You Found The Key To Success, Would You Use It?
by K. Weissman & T. Coyne


If we want a better life, we have to make ourselves ready to grow one.

Contrary to popular guru belief, most people are not that interested in learning how to live the good life when the key to success requires major personal change. We're not talking about being sacrificial, like giving up candy or sex. We're talking about moving beyond the likes of fear and self-hatred, stuff each of us would proudly state that we are more than glad to get rid of. Yet, the majority of us would rather fight with everyone than rearrange our personalities so that our happiness doesn't depend on what another person thinks or does. We are lazy, needy and entirely too insecure. But, don't feel too badly, we are in good company after all.

It sounds strange, but wallowing in self-pity, hating our neighbors, or even being sick, define the path of least resistance for many of us. It's a quirk of human nature that we can criticize our world so vehemently while at the same time strive, at least intellectually, for a feeling of oneness with all people. Doesn't it make sense that to achieve oneness with others, we have to at least have compassion for them, even if they belong to a different political party, live on the "wrong" side of the tracks, or follow a different religion? Again, just because we know the key to success, doesn't mean we use it---until…we have that one experience, no matter how small, that makes the connection come alive for us. We inadvertently do something nice for that annoying person and they all-of-a-sudden become our greatest ally, or our "bad" head cold resolves itself as soon as we leave work and head for the ski slopes. We realize that these shifts in attitude are tactics that may be worth using again. An epiphany!

We often blame our finances, our family, or our health for holding us back from leading the good life, when, in fact, our current situation is the result of incorrect thinking and not the cause of the problem. Ever try to grow a bed of roses in rotten soil? Not much success. You can spend your life cursing the tangled web of thorny vines and the buds that never opened, but wouldn't it be more productive to change the soil? If we want a better life, we have to make ourselves ready to grow one. If we start with this simple awareness, then we begin to see life's challenges as opportunities to till and nurture the soil. And when we are ready to give up the luxury of complaining afforded us by the disturbances in life, the disturbances will fade in comparison to the wealth and abundance we have grown.

(SM) & Copyright 2000 K. Weissman & T. Coyne

Karen Weissman and Tami Coyne are The Spiritual Chicks
SM. We've been stumbling along the spiritual path for longer than we care to admit, and have gone where others fear to tread---everyday life---to reveal the secrets of the universe. Check out our web site 


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